39 years after Roe v. Wade, this topic I am going to write about what is still a hotbed for controversy. I think that is appropriate – it’s not a simple, black and white, topic….. I, like many, do not talk about this, at least in electronic conversations, often (If ever). It just opens up the can of worms, where someone is offended, someone offends in return, etc.
But my fears should not stop me from speaking out here. Not because I am some champion for this “cause”. Not because you are wrong, and I am right. Because we are talking about life here…… A living human being……. Well – two, really. The mother and the child inside her. The debate comes down to which life is more important. More valuable. And how can I decide that???
While I myself struggle to reconcile that, I think we need to consider a couple things here. First, there is one important question that anyone who wants to talk about this, or even really have an opinion about, must consider and honestly answer. When is a life, a life? Is it at conception? Later in the stages of pregnancy? At birth? Or even later than that? This question is paramount to any discussion on this topic. What do you think?
Personally, I believe it’s at the point of conception. God created us to “be fruitful and multiply”, and he gave us this capacity in an amazing way. His word describes us as being one He “knew before we were knit in our mother’s womb”. If you think about this from a natural point of view, even for the layman like me, there is no denying the sperm penetrates the egg, and creates an embrio – a life. Much like all of nature – we reproduce. A fetus has a heartbeat at something like 20 days? Less than a month in. Parts of their body begin to develop sooner than that, and then all through the gestation period – even post birth. Because of this information, I believe life begins at conception.
Given that, I find a child in the womb to be no different than a child born to this world. It’s a life. It’s as important, as valuable as I am. I personally do not think I could take a life for any reason, outside of maybe defending the safety and lives of my family. So, I have two questions. It’s my prayer you answer them HONESTLY to yourself, before we move on.
1. When do YOU think a life is a life? At what stage in pregnancy, or at birth, or whatever?
2. Could YOU take a life, for any reason?
I know that I’m opening a can of worms here. I know that some will be offended, and think I’m being judgemental. I know that some may have taken a life, in some way. I am not here to judge, and I certainly do not mean to shame or condemn anyone. Instead, I want you to consider these questions. Please don’t evade them, or avoid them. Please don’t justify an answer. Please, just answer these questions honestly, in your heart. If you think life does not begin at conception, then the second question would not necessarily apply I may not necessarily have any sort of point to make. But if you do think life begins at conception, then the second question is potentially a difficult one to answer…..
Again – please know, I do not mean to shame anyone. Or to prove you wrong. I want people to consider this. I want this to be more than a topic to vote on, regardless of which way you lean. Of course I want you to see things my way – don’t most who have any sort of opinion they are trying to express? And when we are talking about life and death here – if I consider a life a life at conception – what kind of person am I who is just sitting idle, not voicing my concerns over what we have marginalized as “a woman’s right”??? That’s not hate speech people. That’s not condemnation. That is love.
What if the mother’s life is at risk??? I get that sometimes we must consider the life of the mother. Sometimes the mother’s life is at risk, which would then put the mother and/or father in a predicament where they might have to decide between the life of the child or potentially the mother. I get that. I’ve never been there, so I don’t know how I would respond to that ultimatum. I’d love to tell you I’d “leave it in God’s hands” – but I’m being honest in saying I’ve failed at that in many other areas of my life (I’m a work in progress). So I won’t make some overarching statement that even in cases where the mother is at risk abortion should not a choice you’d make. However, from what I’ve read, the numbers are something like 1-2% of all abortions performed, depending on where you get your source. Let’s push that up to 5% for sake of argument – that is still a very small portion of abortions performed for this reason. So how can I justify the other 95% – the other millions of children killed?
What if the child is a result of rape??? Again – never been there. I couldn’t even imagine the horror one goes through, even long after this horrible act. I imagine that regardless if a person chooses to terminate the baby’s life that is inside them, they are going to suffer much….. I’m not sure which would be worse on them – adding the fact that they killed the child that is half theirs to this pain, or the physical reminder of this horrible atrocity growing inside them….. I can never know. I know that God does – but I also know today that isn’t enough for some. This is such a tough thing, and most of us have not had to endure such a horrible experience. However, if you believe that life begins at conception, then this issue is absolutely an area where my second question applies. Difficult as it may be – it is definitely something we should all consider….
With all that, from what I’ve read, approximately 1% of all abortions are performed on rape victims. Again, if we were to bump that up to 5%, between these two reasons, that would still leave 90% of the millions of lives extinguished as some sort of choice. So we get into the debates on the rights of a person, vs the right to life. That I simply cannot reconcile. If I answer my first question with “life beings at conception”, then I cannot justify taking the life of my unborn child any more than I could justify taking the life of one of my teenagers……
I do have a lot of thoughts about this topic as a whole, that I’ll just share quickly. I don’t pretend to have it all figured out. But I want to get them off my chest, if anyone is still reading:
1. I hate that this seems to be a topic that is relegated to the voting booth. I think it dehumanizes it – and this is definitely a human issue. This is definitely an emotional issue – how can it not be? But I see so many of us, with strong opinions about this, VOTING on this, instead of TALKING about it. I see two problems here:
– Someone is wrong here. There can’t be a “what works for you…” sort of thing. Either I’m off my rocker, or abortion is murder. But both can’t be right.
– I really believe this is an election issue, so that many can win our vote. I may not like this guy – but he’s pro-life, or pro-choice, so he’s got my vote. Or – I really like him, but he’s pro-life, or pro-choice, so I can’t vote for him. It’s probably a small number of votes – but my point is, I think this is more about getting your vote than making a change, or even maintaining what is current. I am probably being cynical – but then why is this a major topic in all presidential debates?
2. It’s NOT hate speech, when one speaks out against this. It’s NOT anti-women’s rights. Don’t buy in to the crap you are fed on a daily basis. At some point, someone or someones threw that lie out to try and silence those who think the life of a child is more important than my comfort. And it’s worked, for a very long time. Don’t buy that. Don’t HATE, and don’t condemn someone who has had an abortion, or is pro-choice. But don’t buy into the lie that this is hate speech. You know better. Throw that thought out, with all the other garbage that is being fed us in this age.
3. I don’t have all the answers here. I don’t know who will adopt all these babies. But that is another lie we are buying in to – that “if you are against abortion, you better be willing to take on that responsibility”. Why? Wait – before I go there, there are many who are willing to do just that, And are doing just that. either with donations, or even adopting – often more than one child too. Now back to the why. There are many who can take on that responsibility themselves. When we have more than 90% of abortions being performed as a form of birth control, we need to revisit my question on whether a life is a life at conception. If you answered “Yes”, how can you reconcile taking a life as a form of birth control?
4. I personally don’t want to even talk about whether or not this should be legal. Not that I don’t have an opinion on the matter. More-so, I know I can’t, or shouldn’t be able to, legislate my morality, force it upon you. If this had never been legalized, maybe I’d think differently? And maybe I am thinking wrong here. But I think at the core, I find it more important that you consider this murder, and never consider it an option you would consider for your child. Even if you have in the past – either yourself, or even endorsed it. I’d rather change hearts than change laws. Laws are so often broken. Hearts can be saved….
5. As with so many other things – I pray for grace in this area. Not for me. For those I love, those I ever encounter. If ever the day came when one of my children, or one of my loved ones, were to reveal to me that they were involved in any way with an abortion – I pray that I would not judge them, instead love them, and show them the grace and forgiveness that comes from the Father and through Jesus Christ. I don’t say that to sound “Christian” – I mean it. It would be easy to forgive those I don’t know, or don’t know well, I think – but I don’t konw that I would act that way to those closest to me. I can only get there through the grace of Jesus Christ….
I realize that some may read this (there aren’t many who read my blog, but some do), and will get pissed off. I realize this may make me enemies with some. I realize some may have already tuned out, writing this post, and potentially me, off as another judgemental “typical American Christian”. I don’t intend for that to be the case – but that’s how we react so often these days – we immediately discount those who challenge our worldview. But I’ll ask you something – if I truly believe that unborn child is a life just as much as I am, how else can I think? If I truly believe that, and I sit silent on this, how selfish, fearful, or even hateful, is that? And I’ll ask you again – what do you believe? If even one person changes their mind, if even one person decides against taking the life of their unborn child, it’s worth losing the respect of everyone I know, and so much more…..