Such A Tragic Lie…

I recently read a quote from Louis CK, who I think is very funny (Sorry, he may say things I don’t like – but he has a funny dry sense of humor that I get).  it goes like this, and it really, really breaks my heart…

“Someday, one of your friends is gonna get divorced, it’s gonna happen, and they’re gonna tell you. Don’t go, ‘ohhhh I’m sorry.’ That’s a stupid thing to say. First of all you’re making ’em feel bad for being really happy, which isn’t fair. And second of all: divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true, because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. It’s really that simple.”

This poor man could not be more deceived.  He will, at some point, if he’s honest, come to regret his decision….

I’m not suggesting that his life will be hell.  I’m not suggesting he’ll even wish he were married to his ex again.  But he will regret this decision he not only made, but rejoices in and encourages others to do…

I ended my marriage almost ten years ago.  Not a day goes by, that I don’t think of the repercussions of this divorce…  It affected my ex.  It affected me.  it also affected our parents, siblings, friends.  In my case (and in the case of Louis CK), it mostly affects our children…

And the sad part is, how it’s affected them is now considered “normal”…  As if I were to infect my kids with a chronic disease, that debilitates them.  But everyone seems to have it now, so it’s normal.  It should not be…

I’m not suggesting that people cannot overcome.  I’m suggesting that it should not be something we, our families, our children need to overcome…

I’m not suggesting that anyone who has done this is evil.  Not even someone like Louis CK, who rejoices in it.  I get that.  I DID that.  It made me feel better, feel justified.  But – it’s a lie.  if Louis CK were honest with himself and you, he’d admit to that…

I’m not even going to suggest that every situation is just like mine, and nobody should ever divorce.  Actually – for the most part, i would probably suggest that.  But I do know there is the odd occasion where maybe a concession needs to be made.  Even Jesus made a concession, with adultery.  I do believe, based on God’s character, and the fact that divorce is one of the few things he lists as something he hates, that it would likely have to be unrepentant adultery, where the spouse actually did the leaving, if even in their heart.  But all that is to say – that is most likely the exception, NOT the rule.

I may make people who read this feel bad, or mad, or pissed off, who have been, or are in the middle, of a divorce.  It’s painful.  It does get better.  But it does NOT go away.  It’s like a nuclear bomb, where the after-effects resonate for the rest of the lives of those affected…

You’re never NOT married.  Especially if you have kids.  But even if you don’t – you’re never out of that commitment you made…

I do not say this to make anyone feel like crap.  I say it because I love you, and it’s the truth.  I see someone like Louis CK lying like this – to himself and to you – and I feel I must speak up.  Don’t buy that lie.  if you are considering ending your marriage – RECONSIDER.  If you know the Lord – humble yourself before Him, and trust that He will lift you up.  If your spouse is leaving you – FIGHT for your marriage!  Even if it’s for a loss – God WILL lift you up!

If you don’t know the Lord – know that He knows you, loves you, and wants so much more for you than the life you may have created for you.  And He DOES make all things new.  I pray that you seek Him, humble yourself, admit your need for Him as your Savior.  He WILL lift you up!

I’m sorry Louis CK, but I will always say, “I’m sorry”, when I hear someone got or is getting a divorce.  And – I am truly sorry that you have gone through this, that your ex, your family, your children have suffered and do suffer the same…  My prayer is that you no longer justify, DON’T wallow in guilt and shame (a great possibility, without Christ), and by God’s grace come to find true joy and happiness in Jesus Christ…

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Rejoice!

Rejoice!

Ahhh Christmas!  A wonderful time of the year!  I recorded a couple Christmas songs recently, and would love to share them with you here.  I hope you enjoy!

https://tedhtunes.bandcamp.com/album/rejoice

O Come O Come Emmanuel

I love this song…  It’s such a dark, depressing sounding song.  But the lyric is so full of hope.  Rejoice!  Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.  The hope of a Savior.  Of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ!

I did this song a bit darker than other versions.  And maybe a bit weird?  I don’t know, let me know what you think.

https://tedhtunes.bandcamp.com/track/o-come-o-come-Emmanuel

Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas

This song was one I learned very recently to play for residents in a nursing home.  I fell in love with it, decided to record it.  I hope you like it!

https://tedhtunes.bandcamp.com/track/have-yourself-a-merry-little-Christmas

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas.  I hope that if you know the Lord, you can rest in His peace during this time, that you have opportunities to share the love and hope of Christ with others.  I hope that if you DON’T know the Lord, He touches your heart during this season.  That you find out what sort of freedom the Lord promised, through His Son….

Merry Christmas!